Thursday, October 28, 2010

"Spending" Time


On the train home from school....ahhhh the end of another day. Right now, it feels great. Another day down, another day closer to the weekend. At first thought, sure, it sounds good, but what I really need to be asking myself is: this day that you're so happy to have "gone", have u made it a day you can be proud of?

So many days pass, and all I do is look forward to the next one and bellyache about how I can't wait for the weekend. But for what? So I can go home and "chill" (my favorite word)? I mean really: where has "chillin'" ever gotten anyone?

This time that I'm so eager to pass is PRECIOUS time that I will never get back. Sometimes I think about my life and all my ambitions and I reflect on all the time I've wasted. As evidenced by my previous blog (click here to check it out) clearly I don't think my life is over and my dreams are finished. But I do take full responsibility for my own actions and in retrospect, hunnay I wasted so much time that if it was on a timecard, I probably would be set for life #realtalk

But the larger question is: Why? Who told me I had time to waste? When ur 22 and 23, it is so easy to get caught up in that "I got time" mindframe, when in all actuality this is time that we will never get back. I equate it to money (can you tell I just left an accounting class?). The money I have today, in my pocket right now, once I spend it, it's gone. Sure I'll get more, God willing, but this particular cash will be long gone. Same with time. Sure I may have another day or 2 in me (I'm hoping for a lot more) but once this day is gone, I'll never see it again. Depressing huh? Nah not really. Knowing is half the battle.

It's so funny, because when I hear people younger than me discuss turning 25, I see myself so clearly when I was that age . So hopeful about the future and all my TIME. Had I known then, what I now know....I not only would have made better use of it, but I would have cherished it more.

So I ask you: Are you "spending" your time wisely?

Wednesday, October 20, 2010

Are you having a quarter life crisis?

It's been said that the twenties are for "finding yourself" and figuring out who you are as an individual. The thirties are for actually putting into action the knowledge that the self discovery of the 20's has garnered. The forties are for actually reaping the benefits of the work that was put in during the thirties and actually finally accepting one's self for who he/she is. I can live with that logic. It sounds good and bodes well. But then why is it that myself and my peers, at times, feel unaccomplished and unfulfilled when, according to the notion stated above, we haven't even begun to tap into who we really are? Click HERE to read more....

Monday, October 11, 2010

Like I'm the only girl in the world......


Want you to make me feel like I’m the only girl in the world
Like I’m the only one that you’ll ever love
Like I’m the only one who knows your heart
Only girl in the world…
Like I’m the only one that’s in command
Cuz I’m the only one who understands how to make you feel like a man

Ain't that the truth!!! Sang it Rih Rih! Amongst females, and people in general, we'd be hard pressed to find topics we wholeheartedly agree on. There's always a flip side and some folks are way too eager to play devil's advocate (myself included...I will argue just about ANY point...keeps the mind sharp!). That being said, most females can agree that, in the eyes of their significant other, they want to feel like the only girl in the world. But this thought process brought me to a larger question. I asked myself...I said self?? Is it that we want to FEEL like the only girl in the world or is that we want to BE the only girl in the world (to the man in question)? This I'm afraid is not a topic so easily agreed upon. I have had countless conversations with women who argue "As long as he makes me feel like I'm wifey/number 1...I'm good." Or "What I don't know won't hurt me" Or better yet "He just better not let me find out". Then there are those, like me, who want to BE the only girl in the world. Some may argue, that that's an idealistic viewpoint, especially when dealing with the opposite sex. Personally, I'm on the fence, when it comes to even believing that males have the capacity to be with only one girl in the world. I personally don't believe it's in their makeup, and if it is, they have to arrive at that point, after MUCH self discovery. But that's just me.  Click HERE to read more........