Tuesday, April 13, 2010

Can I have a slice of humble pie for dessert?

So I get home last night and my S.O. is cooking dinner. He was making chicken cutlets and had the house smelling all good. So I asked "What are you making?" He says "Let me surprise you."  I say okay. Then I see noodles and what not so I'm like (in my head) "Is he making spaghetti with chicken in it?" (I ordinarily don't like that...no surprise there if you know me. I'm notoriously picky with food although my waste line may not show it). So because I'm an alpha-female, I have to open my mouth and ask.

He says yeah.

I say "That's why I asked you what you were making 'cause I would have just cut up the chicken and made a salad."

Oh Lord why did I do/say that?

"I TRY TO MAKE SOMETHING SPECIAL FOR YOU AND YOU TELL ME YOU WANT SALAD???" I'm like whoa whoa whoa there buddy. Is it my fault that I don't like what you're making? (Of course I didn't say that but I was sure thinking it). So I apologized because I REALLY didn't mean to offend him and in the end, dinner ended up being REALLY good. Granted, I jumped the gun but he BROKE on me. I felt like I was the husband and I just really upset my wife over dinner. So it got me to thinking...

Was I wrong? Was I being ungrateful?  I concluded that I was. I should have just kept my mouth shut and waited to see if I even liked it before I complained. Some women would die (figuratively of course) to come home from a long day (14 hours to be exact)to their man cooking (and mine does it often) and I had the gall to complain about what he made (Hey I can take responsibility when I'm wrong). As women, when do we just shut up and be grateful? If ever.....

Wednesday, April 7, 2010

Can I Be Like You When I Grow Up......

Doesn't it feel good to make it happen?? Like REALLY make it happen and do something worth doing, and feel proud of yourself. I'm always striving to be a better woman and person. But I can't help but feel like it's never enough. And that's the thing: it shouldn't be...EVER.

I look at life like an ongoing learning experience. It continues on til that fateful day when that's it. OVER. That was for dramatic effect but for real though, do you ever wonder what you're REALLY doing? I do.

I met a guy the other day who said to me:

"Do you love what you do? I bet you don't. It's very rare that people do what they LOVE. I'm fortunate to be one of those people".

I didn't feel jealous but I felt...shamed. Like dag, how can a complete stranger just read you like that and be so right? And it wasn't personal, he was speaking to a group, but when you know your own potential it's weird. I felt like he was talking DIRECTLY to me. We parted ways with some words of wisdom he bestowed upon me and it would be an injustice not to pass it on. I mean for real, each one teach one.

Click HERE to find out the "7 Habits of Highly Effective People", with my own translation of course:

Thursday, April 1, 2010

Why does she stay???


I find it interesting that women can easily tell someone else what is wrong with them and their relationship but can not take a minute to look squarely in the mirror. On my way to work this morning, I got into it with my S.O. (borrowed that from abelleinbrooklyn.com) and I wondered to myself: Self? If u have so much to complain about with this man, then ask yourself the same question Neyo asked himself...Why does she stay? Is it because one becomes too accustomed to having someone else around that it seems unfathomable to be alone? Is it because it's not that serious? Is it because breaking up is not an option? Or is it just because it's better to have a piece of man than no man at all? I really don't have an answer that's why I felt the need to blog about it? So I ask...why does she stay???