Thursday, February 17, 2011
You Can Bet That, Never Gotta Sweat That! Is Love A "Sure Thing"?
Love you like a brother
Treat you like a friend
Respect you like a lover
You could bet that
Never gotta sweat that
I got faith in you and I
So put your pretty little hand in mine
Even when we're down to the wire babe
Even when it's do or die
We can do it baby simple and plain
This love is a sure thing
Awwww well isn't that sweet?! Sounds good doesn't it? I'd wager that most women would just melt if their man uttered these words to them. We may be complex creatures but it's usually the simple things that get us where it counts. Sounds simple enough right? But when is it ever? People say that love is always supposed to feel good. I beg to differ. When you first fall in love, all of the things you see on TV and read in books often hold true: the buttterflies, the nervousness, the goofy smiling, the sweet gestures. Those are the things that occur when we're falling in love with a person. But being in love, and sustaining a relationship are two different things. A sustainable relationship takes hard work, and hard work isn't always pretty. With this in mind, when the going gets tough...is love a sure thing?
I would argue that love, real love, is a sure thing. Even if things don't work out the way we expect them to or hope they will, love still holds true. Love doesn't just die when a relationship has run its course. It just lies dormant because it has no further place to go. Love songs, romance novels, and TV make us ooh and ahh all day, but what happens on the radio and on screen (or on paper) isn't a direct reflection of what happens in real life.
Sure everyone should respect, cherish, and love their respective mates. Yet, I've heard from a few married couples that when the going get rough (and it will undoubtedly get rough), love is the first thing to go. Now don't get me wrong, I love this song just as much as the next person. I'd also consider myself an optimist. Even still, I find myself asking: which love is a sure thing? Contrary to what Mr. Miguel croons, it aint always "simple and plain". Sometimes differences can cause a real strain amongst even the best lovers. When it all comes down to it, the willingness to put in hard work and compromise should be the "sure thing". Obviously, it's not as romantic and wouldn't make for such a great tune, but all in all if you want a relationship to go the distance, communication, tolerance, and growth should be the sure things. With those attributes, he should handily be able to "love you like a brother, treat you like a friend, respect you like a lover". Woe-ooo-woe-woe-ooo-woe..........