I've been grappling with my decision to talk about something that's been bothering me for about a week now. After my internal debate was done, I concluded: This is MY blog and I can talk about anything I damn well please!
So...I had an issue that I wanted to know if ya'll can help me with. Usually comments are not that important to me because I can see people are reading according my stats, and that's what really matters to me (btw, thanks for reading). On this particular post, I plead with you to weigh in, because I actually care what you all think AND I also want to know if I'M buggin!
A few weeks ago I submitted a guest post to a popular blogger/writer. Her career is taking off and she'd been too busy to consistently update her own site. She requested that writers send her pieces and if she saw fit she would put them on her blog. Of course, any beginner in their right mind would see this as an opportunity to reach a broader audience. Me being in my right mind (arguably of course), I submitted a few for her to take a look at. She replied to me and said she would use both of the ones I'd sent her, and she would try to put them up before the new year. The new year came and went and I hadn't seen either up on the site so I followed up. She took a while to respond but when she did, she told me she'd changed her mind because neither would spark the dialogue she wanted for her blog. Of course, I respected that (although I thought an email saying as much wouldn't have hurt, but that's just me). I also agreed to some extent because the ones I'd sent her lacked depth and were pretty...cutesy. She told me she did like my writing though and would be happy to take a look at some more. I sent her 2 more. I should add that these posts that I'd submitted had already been published here, but again, the point was to reach a larger audience. She never responded to my email.
A few days go by and it's the night of the Jets vs. Steelers game (sorry Jets nation for the loss). I get home and I see she's updated her status on one of the social sites to say she has a new post up. The title said a lot and I already had one eyebrow raised as it was eerily similar to the one I'd submitted to her. It was about the complexity of complexion (mine was about the lack of representation of dark skinned girls in the media, check it HERE). Anywho, the similarities were uncanny - down to the Lil Wayne quotes in favor of light skinned girls and the oft used backhanded compliment of "pretty for a dark skinned girl". I understand this is a topic all black women can relate to so it could've just been a coincidence, but 3 days after I sent it to her...I saw hers. I'd be lying if I said it didn't strike me as a little more than coincidental and if nothing else, a little strange. I've been following her for a while now so I didn't think it was in her character being that she's so talented herself (or so I thought), but again...it definitely raised an eyebrow. Also, it wouldn't be the first time I'd misjudged a person's character.
So what I did was...I posted a comment with a link to my article underneath hers so that people, and by people I mean her readers, could draw their own conclusions.
Please understand that I can't go into specifics for obvious reasons. If someone is grimy enough to steal my work aka plagiarize, who's to say they aren't grimy enough to come at me for libel or defamation of character? I mean I'm just sayin'. I hate to be paranoid but I can't afford (literally) to have any one come at me that way. Feel me? Feel free to do your own research though ;-).
I say all of this to say: based on the information that I've given you, what conclusion would you draw?
Have I been got???